It’s the cliches that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life for ever. You don’t get over it because ‘it’ is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes.
How could it?
The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it.
Why would I want them to?" "Written on the Body" - Jeanette Winterson 07.03.14 ♥ 7
Lesbians and Popular Culture; or, The Most Fun I Had While Reading an Academic Article in ages, maybe ever… because: unashemd breasts
[K] Excerpts from Elisabeth Ladenson’s 2001 article in GLQ 7:3, “Lovely Lesbians; or, Pussy Galore”, in which she discusses the representation of lesbians texts by male authors (most importanly James Bond-creator Ian Fleming), and in pop culture more generally.
I found myself giggling throughout the whole read (which, trust me, is much too rare in researching for one’s thesis, hence the excitement). Why? To quote the wisdom of a much younger woman (childhood Liz Lemon): It’s funny, cause it’s true!
The preponderance of lesbian themes may well he the fruit of a discovery on the part of entertainment executives that lesbian plotlines represent the only erotic configuration more or less guaranteed to appeal to all sexual demographics.
Lesbians themselves, no matter how indignant over exploitation and inauthenticity, wiIl never be able to resist taking a look at exactly how they are misrepresented; straight women are notoriously curious about such matters; straight men will line up in any weather; and, finally, gay men can generally be counted on for at least a token modicum of solidarity and identification.
That part in bold? Half of my online-life!
In any case, it is a truth universally acknowledged that a heterosexual man in search of entertainment will want to watch women have sex.
Yes, all bold - not even Jane Austen would argue with that.
And finally, a little help with your literature gaydar:
The description further informs us that Tilly [from Goldfinger] displays self-reliance and independence, in addition to holding her body proudly, her fine breasts outthrown and unashamed under the taut silk.
You can always, I have learned from reading such literature, tell a lesbian by her unashamed breasts.
Excuse me, while I re-read some of my books in search of unashamed breasts so I can complain about the exploitative misrepresentations of lesbians. Fun! (No, seriously, that is my idea of fun ;-))
Okay: In the role playing game known as The Real World, “Straight White Male” is the lowest difficulty setting there is.
This means that the default behaviors for almost all the non-player characters in the game are easier on you than they would be otherwise. The default barriers for completions of quests are lower. Your leveling-up thresholds come more quickly. You automatically gain entry to some parts of the map that others have to work for. The game is easier to play, automatically, and when you need help, by default it’s easier to get. […]
it’s certainly possible someone playing at a higher difficulty setting is progressing more quickly than you are, […] You can lose playing on the lowest difficulty setting. The lowest difficulty setting is still the easiest setting to win on.
The player who plays on the “Gay Minority Female” setting? Hardcore."
[K] “Privilege” explained in computer game/role-playing terms by John Scalzi. Brilliant!
I feel the need to print this whole thing out and randomly hand it out to dudes in my life.08.14.12 ♥ 62
In youth, it was a way I had
To do my best to please,
And change, with every passing lad,
To suit his theories.
But now I know the things I know,
And do the things I do;
And if you do not like me so,
To hell, my love, with you!
— Dorothy Parker, “Indian Summer”
[K] Valid life advice…07.13.12 ♥ 11